In the meantime, Rosie looks great. She is up and about, back to her old self, and wanting this to just go away. She is still a High School Junior about to have a very important academic year. Rosie's mom is, understandably, overwhelmed by the fright of a mysterious serious illness and the newness of the situation. How do we respect Rosie's need to live life as usual, while at the same time protecting her from some of the risks related to her diagnosis and her treatment?
For Rosie, proposed accommodations included:
As parents, we worry. Maybe the school won't believe that we need the help. Maybe the school won't be fair about how they help. Maybe our children will be punished for not being perfect. These are worries that the school accommodations laws address. Securing a lawyer to help dissolve these worries by applying your facts to the laws lets you focus on parenting.
And there is a lot of parenting to do when your children are facing medical crises. Our children worry about whether they will be all right, whether they will have to give up dreams, whether you are going to be able to deal with this medically, emotionally, and financially. This is on top of the normal teenage worries about friends, grades, acne, college plans, etc. Especially when your children are "medical puzzles" or "medical mysteries," there is tremendous uncertainty about what will come next.
Rosie's mom tells me that I am "an angel who does not need wings." With Rosie's medical crisis, her mom was suddenly a "newbie" in the world of parents who deal with these things. The fears we experience when our children are critically ill, and when we don't have good medical answers that lead to a cure, can be paralyzing. But our children need us to show them that life does go on. Who they are has not changed. How we do things might have changed, but they are still the beloved child who will do great things in this world.
Who would've thunk a lawyer could help with that?
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Mari Franklin is a counselor at law who specializes in helping students secure accommodations at school.